Gaux Girls Talk Confidence2020-07-16
So this July we’re focusing on the ins, outs, ups, and downs of finding and building confidence. Over the next few weeks, you’ll see interviews with women we admire, opportunities to get involved and give back, and much more.
When selecting the women we feature as Gaux Girls, we look for a special mix of smarts, style, and pedal-to-the-metal drive. This varied group is comprised of women with all sorts of job titles, from startup founder to editor to author. A strong sense of self and the confidence to pursue their goals is a shared commonality; it was a given that we'd ask a few for thoughts on building and maintaining confidence as part of this month's celebration.
Tze Chun, Uprise Art Founder: When I come across a challenge, I tell myself, "If it were easy, everyone would do it." See those situations as opportunities to believe in yourself and prove you are capable.
Nicole Gibbons, Clare Founder: I rarely get nervous, but if I have a meeting where it feels like everything's on the line I'll listen to a playlist I have to pump myself up. It's not like 'I'm feeling down, I'm going to listen to a song.' It's when I need to get hyped or in the right mindset. Game-time mode.
I'm a huge Hamilton fan, so "My Shot" is on it—the original and the remix with Busta Rhymes—and probably a handful of other Hamilton songs. Kanye's "Stronger," TI's "Motivation" and Kanye and Jay-Z's "Who Gon Stop Me?". It's pretty much all rap and Hamilton—my "pump myself up" playlist.
Aishwarya Iyer, Brightland Founder: Brene Brown's quote—"Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen."
Nicole Gibbons: Early on in my career I didn't have a lot of confidence. It's learned over time—you don't come out of school at 21 or whatever having all your stuff together. There's so much uncertainty, and sometimes you have to stumble and experience a lot of different things to build your resilience and level of assertiveness. It strengthens over time.
It wasn't until I was reading all these tech people on Twitter prophesizing the future, and this guy shared this thing on why some people become entrepreneurs. One of the top motivating reasons is that they think they have way more to offer, are smarter and better than what their corporate employers were valuing them as. When you know you're too good to work in an environment where people don't see what you see in yourself, that's your signal to go. I reached a point where my work spoke for itself, and I had won a lot of respect from my peers, yet I had a boss who didn't see or value me in the same way. When I could back up my assertions about myself with real facts and hard data points that couldn't be refuted, that was the turning point in my career.
Tze Chun: Hiring my first employee. Seeing her inspired by the company mission and goals and willing to take the leap with me made me confident that the team and company had the potential to grow.