Married in Margaux2020-05-11
Of all the emotional hurdles brought on by COVID-19, the countless brides deciding whether, how, and when to postpone weddings face a specific heartache. It's a deeply personal decision without a clear right or wrong. Whether you push your plans to a to-be-determined date or readjust for a smaller scale ceremony, it's a pivot that was unimaginable months before.
While we're always touched to be included in a bride's big day, it's especially poignant in this moment in time. A Margaux bride shared her recent D.C. wedding with us, below, in her own words.
"We had been watching the news for weeks along with everyone else in the world. We were increasingly worried as our wedding date of March 28 crept closer. By early March, the global indicators were pretty clear, and we were first and foremost concerned with our family and friends being safe and comfortable. The decision didn't really feel like a choice; it was just an acknowledgement of the difficult situation we're all in. We want a big celebration with our loved ones—about 200 friends and family RSVP'ed!—and we weren't going to be able to have that in this moment in time. We would have to postpone the big party to a later date.
"But we're lucky, we're in love, and we already had our marriage license. All we needed was our exchange of vows and a signature...
"We took one of the days that we would have spent preparing for our big wedding to drive around Washington, DC, where we live. While there are so many beautiful locations with all the cherry blossoms blooming, we noticed that the Supreme Court served as a beautiful, unique, and meaningful place for us to exchange our vows. With the lack of tourists, it was also very quiet, alleviating concerns that we would undermine efforts to socially distance.
"Our photographer and our officiant were game, so we decided to get married on our planned wedding date. A few friends had been checking in on us, and we told them our plans. They in turn decided to show up to serve as witnesses. In all, there were 10 of us there that day, scattered about on the walk in front of the Supreme Court. My officiant, one of my closest friends, noted during our vows that we were standing in front of a legal body that had recently ruled on the constitutionality of marriage equality, citing Justice Kennedy's opinion, 'No union is more profound than marriage, for it embodies the highest ideals of love, fidelity, devotion, sacrifice, and family. In forming a marital union, two people become something greater than once they were.'
"My wedding dress, a long, formal gown, didn't quite fit the occasion, but the dress I had for my rehearsal was perfect. I wore The Heel in Steel, which I had been so excited to wear for my wedding events.
"Our wedding day was nothing like what we had planned. It was hard to not compare moment for moment what I thought I'd be doing that day to what was actually happening. We had been planning a loud, fun, crazy day filled with hugs, family, and friends coming in from around the world; I had wanted so badly to walk down the aisle with my parents in front of the most important people in our lives. We wanted to have the best possible party. Instead, we had a quiet, intimate day.
"It was beautiful and it reinforced some of the most important qualities we aim to imbue into our marriage: devotion, resilience, and love. It felt so triumphant. COVID-19 couldn't deny us our wedding day.
"We're still planning on having our big wedding with all our family and friends. We're just waiting until a time when we can hug everyone, can dance, and have a carefree night. I'll walk down the aisle with my parents and get to reaffirm my commitment to my husband and our union."
Photos by Kelly Loss